You need to be in good terms with yourself and love yourself if you want someone else to love you. If this isn’t the case then you will start feeling emotionally dependent on your partner, crazy and jealous. This has certainly a negative effect on the relationship.
Both of you will feel upset, angry and overwhelmed. Even when you are physically together with your partner you can feel alone and isolated.
So, if you relate to these descriptions maybe it’s time to focus on your improvement. When you start doing that, you will be more confident and happier. People will be attracted to your positive and friendly personality and they will love you for it. If you don’t try to improve yourself you will emit sad and negative vibe that pushes people away from you. This may sound impossible to do, but it’s actually very simple and worth it. Here are five ways to try and improve yourself:
How To Improve Yourself
Treat Yourself With Love
This is the first and most important part of the process. You need to stop ignoring your needs. Make an effort to listen to your wishes and needs and communicate with yourself about them. For example, if you feel hesitant about a certain thing don’t push your thoughts away – devote some time to think about it : why do you feel that way and respect that.
Don’t Insult Yourself
Some of the characteristics of an unhealthy relationship are insults and put downs. On the other hand ,a happy and healthy relationship is filled with positive and encouraging affirmations. Be yourself a friend, not an enemy. Don’t insult yourself – If you do that try to think a positive thought afterwards. This will help you in replacing the internal insults with positive comments that will certainly make you feel better. This advice is very effective so try implementing it as soon as possible.
Replace Negative Words With Positive Ones
Negative thoughts always imply that you have a poor relationship with yourself. This affects how you see yourself and the world around you. Start replacing negative words like : no, lonely, annoyed, lonely, ugly , disinterested with positive ones : happy, grateful, love, yes, content….
In the beginning it may feel like faking something, but over time it will feel normal and you will feel happier.
Replace Negative Thoughts With Positive Ones.
The sooner will you be able to speak more positively, the better. This will ease the process of thinking and it will change negative thinking into positive. If you find yourself thinking negatively, make a conscious effort to push the thought out of your mind.
Find A Real Reason To Be Healthier And Happier
Many people try to be healthy because they think that’s how it’s supposed to be. In reality this is a bad reason to think that. This means that they don’t enjoy in it.
You need to find a real reason to be healthy , something that just isn’t an obligation. Find exercise you enjoy doing, healthy foods you like and set health milestones to track your progress.