We’re in the 20th century and so many people have such hard times simply admitting, accepting and owning up to their faults and saying “sorry” when it is due.
Why is apologizing so hard for so many? You will not be valued any less by admitting you are in the wrong; in fact you will be valued more when you own
up to your faults and genuinely apologize. Learning to Apologize When You’re Wrong will build stronger relationships as people will look up to you as a
honest person and they also gain trust in you.
The Most Meaningful Apology
1.) When you apologize to someone, never make excuses, because this means that you’re really not sorry. Making excuses is basically telling the other
person that you’re justified for how you acted and you expect them to over look it. When you apologize, you simply apologize; there is no reason or
any buts as to why.
2.) It is important that when you do apologize to another person, ask them for forgiveness as well. Simply saying “sorry” by itself is just a statement
which requires no response. When you ask “Can you please forgive me?” this is a most humble request in which we are able to rebuild relationships.
It is essential to understand that when you are wrong, you are never owed forgiveness; so be grateful when you receive it!
3.) When you do own up to your faults and apologize, don’t simply say “I’m sorry for being mean.” Actually admit the guilt – “I’m sorry that I said your outfit
doesn’t look nice on you, in the future, I will give suggestions to help you.” Then you’d also ask to be forgiven. Most important, when you are
apologizing to someone, we do not do this thru a text message! Your apology will be more meaningful and sincere when it is done face to face.
4.) Lastly, it is important that you understand apologies don’t mean anything if you keep doing what you’re sorry for. If you are going to apologize to someone,
mean it and be sincere, if you can’t do that, then you aren’t deserving of their friendship. Don’t waste people’s time and emotions; if you are not
sincere with your own words, don’t bother speaking them.
Apologizing doesn’t always mean that you’re wrong and the other person is right. Apologizing does mean that you value our friendship more than your ego.
Many people have such a hard time with this concept, to the extent that they’d rather stop speaking to you instead of apologizing to you when they are wrong.
Sadly, for many apologizing is a threat of their self identity and their self esteem. Generally these types of people are often comfortable with drama,
anger, and emotional distance.
Most of us view apologizing as an opportunity to admit guilt and to resolve conflict between each other, and continue to build strong relationships based on honesty and a firm foundation of trust from one another.