What If?- is the question that we often ask ourselves. What if this isn’t the right thing for me? What if it doesn’t work out? What If I fail?
Does this sound familiar to you? Don’t worry because you are not alone. Anxiety has becoming one of the most common health issues these days. We are creating disastrous scenarios in our head that are never going to happen. This is because of the way we process information and expectations that have negative effects on our mentalities.
Worrying is normal, but not if it’s keeping you up at night.
It is normal to worry if you have some problems, but usually we worry about things that aren’t in touch with reality.
Example: Imagine you started a new job as a waiter. You misunderstood some orders because you don’t know the menu completely, you broke several glasses and your coworkers were annoyed by you. You need the job, but you don’t want to humiliate yourself the next day. However, you must continue working and you are surprised to discover that everyone is acting like nothing ever happened. No one is mad at you and you are more familiar with the protocol so it’s all good.
Advice : Be optimistic: Prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. You need to keep your mind open. Don’t waste time worrying about something unless it’s happening.
You’re sabotaging yourself by worrying too much.
You may pass up opportunities or act irrationally because of what could happen, or you have the wrong idea. Either way, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
Let’s look at this from a romantic perspective. You may lose out on a great relationship because you’re too afraid of getting burned again. Or let’s say you’re already in the relationship, and you become paranoid because you jump to the worst case scenario if they don’t answer their phone for 5 minutes.
People tend to expect disaster because they ignore the probability.
Here are a list of things that probably won’t happen even though you’re scared to death that it will:
Plane crash: Car crashes are way more common
A lot of people have fear of flying in a plane, because they are convinced it will crash. Remember this: Every time there is a plane crash it’s on national television. Why? Because it’s so uncommon. On the other hand, there are car crashes every day. So next time you get panicked by flying remember that plane crashes are extremely rare.
Judgment: The truth is, no one really cares that much
We think that everyone is watching our every move. The truth is, no matter how harsh it sounds , that no one really cares that much. If you worry that people will remember that offbeat thing you said two weeks ago, don’t, because they probably forgot it. You are your own worst critic and you are only putting spotlight on your own flaws.
Abandonment: By avoiding being abandoned, you probably push people away
Sadly, this is something that’s difficult to kick away. If you’ve been let down or abandoned by someone you respect it’s going to cause a huge blow to your expectations of others. However, you need to know that not everyone is going to hurt you. Give people a chance to show you their will to be a part of your live. If they don’t just let them go.
Source : Lifehack.org